I am married! My Destination Wedding In Copenhagen, Denmark

Whoop whoop — I’m married! On October 4th, 2024, I got married in Copenhagen, and I’m officially a wife now. How wild is that? I took Gary’s last name, and honestly, it still feels surreal seeing my first name paired with a completely different last name. I’m really curious how long it’ll take before it finally feels normal. I wish I could say I’ve never been happier—but if you’ve been following along, you probably know that distance is still a big challenge for us. We’ve been managing it well, but somehow, being married makes the distance feel even harder. That said, there’s light at the end of the tunnel: we’ve already started the process for me to move to the U.S. Unfortunately, it’s tough to predict how long all the paperwork and admin will take—but the wheels are in motion, and that alone feels like a huge step forward.

True love is friendship set on fire, and marriage is where that fire never fades.

And now… I’ve married my best friend. Every time I say that out loud, people seem a little confused—like your husband shouldn’t be your best friend. As if friendship belongs outside of marriage. But honestly? That’s just not how it works for me. I’ve tried it the other way for over a decade, living by the whole “opposites attract” idea—and it never truly worked. For me, my partner has to be my best friend. Someone who likes the same things I do, who just gets me without needing every little thing explained. The idea of a relationship where both people have totally separate hobbies and lead mostly separate lives? That’s never been my dream. I know it works for some—but for me, that’s not the kind of love or life I’m looking for. Not everyone is lucky enough to find someone who shares their values and their passions. That’s the ultimate combo—the real-deal, once-in-a-lifetime kind of connection. And when you find your version of that? You hold onto it. And that’s exactly what I did.

WE GOT MARRIED IN DENMARK

The question of why we chose a destination wedding—and more specifically, why Copenhagen, Denmark—is actually pretty easy to answer: paperwork. We’re a couple with different nationalities, and since we decided that I’ll be the one moving to the U.S. (and not the other way around), it was clear from the beginning that getting married in the States wasn’t an option. U.S. immigration doesn’t look kindly on that kind of setup, and we just weren’t willing to deal with the stress and complications that could come with it. Germany could’ve been an option too, at least in theory. I reached out to my local registry office and asked what documents we’d need… and let’s just say: it would’ve been impossible to provide everything they required. Honestly, I always say—Germany’s going to end up drowning in its own bureaucracy someday. Complicated? Try next-level complicated. If you’ve ever had to deal with German paperwork, you probably know exactly what I mean.

So with both Germany and the U.S. off the table, we turned to good old Google—and honestly, that’s how we stumbled across Denmark. The process was simple, the paperwork was minimal, and everything just felt doable. We ended up hiring an agency that took care of pretty much everything for us: communication with the Danish authorities, submitting all the documents, booking the civil ceremony—you name it. It was such a relief not to have to figure it all out ourselves, especially with everything else going on. The only things we had to handle on our own were booking the hotel and flights—and honestly, that was the easy part. On top of that, I’d heard so many great things about Copenhagen as a city break destination. And since neither of us had ever been there before, it felt like a total win-win.

We got married on a Friday—October 4th, 2024. If you’ve been around for a while, you probably know that October is my month. It’s always been my favorite, so there was never really a question about getting married any other time of year. I mean, sure—if it hadn’t worked out, I would’ve been flexible. But since we had the freedom to choose, it was an easy decision. On the big day, I was so nervous—I was literally shaking. Gary was half-laughing at me because I was such a bundle of nerves. But honestly, isn’t that totally normal? It would’ve been more worrying if I wasn’t a little anxious, right? Our ceremony was scheduled for 12 noon at Copenhagen City Hall, which ended up being the perfect time. It gave us the whole morning to take it slow, get ready, and make sure everything was just right.

For example, I had been in touch with a local florist ahead of time and ordered a bridal bouquet, which I picked up that morning. There was still plenty of time after that to get ready at our own pace—and even iron a few last-minute outfit wrinkles. I did my own hair and makeup that day. I had gone back and forth for a while on whether to book a makeup artist, but in the end, I decided to keep it simple and do it myself. After the ceremony, as you can see in this post, we had also booked a photographer to capture the day. And honestly, I’m so glad we did—some of the photos turned out absolutely beautiful. Well… at least I think so.

I have to say—our wedding turned out exactly the way I had always imagined mine would be. I’ve never really been a fan of the classic, traditional weddings. They’re lovely to attend as a guest, sure—but they’ve just never felt like me. So in the end, everything about our day reflected what I’ve always wanted. And honestly, even looking back now, I wouldn’t change a single thing. Not one detail. For me—for us—it was perfect. And probably the most beautiful day of my life.